Dear readers,
I do not find you out of mind, even though I could be described as gone out of sight. Of course, its been a year since I last wrote on this forum. Given that my original intention was to maintain a periodic release of some nuggets. Hence, my french leave is indicative of some imperfection we share as human beings.
Predisposed to the hustle and bustle of life, in all, I wanna trust that life has been kind to yall (Not too worry, as I shall not be too much into the Americas).Well, I find it chief that we consider giving the above named topic worthy of discuss since we as humans are bound to be faced with some challenges in life. Hence, the need to profer some solutions. In any area and in every area of the human life, namely; family, educational, finance, spiritual, physical, social and materially challeneges are bound to occour, but the good thing is that they can be overcomed. Now, the aformentioned areas of life could all be standing apart and are yet interwoven.
In this piece, we shall dwell on the social aspect, afterwhich we shall graudually progress into chewing over the rest areas in subsequent write-ups. It is natural that every human wants to be loved and to feel loved. Every human should want be appreciated, respected and cherished. Nobody wants to be treated as a daft or some ridicule even if they facilitated any of such case unpremeditatedly.
Now, to any general rule, there is an exception as we shall not overlook that some persons might actually prefer to be disrespected, unloved, and uncherished. It might not be far from the fact that they fall within some social anormally known as saddism. In any case, some perosns are unwanted, some persons do feel unwanted, some persons are unloved or do feel unloved, some persons are ridiculed, jeered at, disgraced or might feel, or have once felt it.
Such treatments could be categorized as coming from ones colleagues in the office, at school, at church or some other social unit within the community. But if we shall look at it from the out of court. If you were not up to something, nobody might want to jeer at you, or talk you off course. Many at atimes, the people who criticise you or make you feel unwanted are actually afraid that you could succeed and become ahead of them. Could you have ever noticed that the same persons who caused you pains, still come around in somewhat way even outrightly to check after you?
On the other hand, where ones social needs are not met, it behoves too, that the person who is not receiving isn't doing a giving, even if the person gives, it isn't giving enough. I believe that love is reciprocal, and that respect is even. But that is not to say that we trade love, care and respect. It just happens that what we sow in others comes back to us and not necessarily from the exact persons we had sowed into. Someone once said, that if you do all the giving that you could to your kids, your wife, and to as many persons as you could and still expect the same persons to return the same favour to you, you had automatically enslaved yourself to the timing of their response of the same gesture. And so, the freer you give, the freer you receive.
Sometimes, we show some persons love and they don't return it back to us, sometimes we show some persons care but they don't return it back to us. Not too worry folk, there is nothing that you own that wasn't given to you in the first place and so there is no end to doing good, ONLY REFUSE TO BE TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF, BECAUSE SOME PERSONS ARE WIRED TO RECEIVE AND GIVE BACK NOTHING. If you don't tell them, show them. Giving don't neccessarily have to be money, or material, you can give your time. Nobody has the right to humilate you either no matter his/her status, rank, color, position, possessions, or creed etc,
Lastly,you couldn't need a friend and not show yourself friendly? You couldn't be rightly criticized and you never fail to improve?
Till I come your way next time, I remain yours truly,
HENRY CHIKE OKONKWO.
Do have a lovely week ahead.
I do not find you out of mind, even though I could be described as gone out of sight. Of course, its been a year since I last wrote on this forum. Given that my original intention was to maintain a periodic release of some nuggets. Hence, my french leave is indicative of some imperfection we share as human beings.
Predisposed to the hustle and bustle of life, in all, I wanna trust that life has been kind to yall (Not too worry, as I shall not be too much into the Americas).Well, I find it chief that we consider giving the above named topic worthy of discuss since we as humans are bound to be faced with some challenges in life. Hence, the need to profer some solutions. In any area and in every area of the human life, namely; family, educational, finance, spiritual, physical, social and materially challeneges are bound to occour, but the good thing is that they can be overcomed. Now, the aformentioned areas of life could all be standing apart and are yet interwoven.
In this piece, we shall dwell on the social aspect, afterwhich we shall graudually progress into chewing over the rest areas in subsequent write-ups. It is natural that every human wants to be loved and to feel loved. Every human should want be appreciated, respected and cherished. Nobody wants to be treated as a daft or some ridicule even if they facilitated any of such case unpremeditatedly.
Now, to any general rule, there is an exception as we shall not overlook that some persons might actually prefer to be disrespected, unloved, and uncherished. It might not be far from the fact that they fall within some social anormally known as saddism. In any case, some perosns are unwanted, some persons do feel unwanted, some persons are unloved or do feel unloved, some persons are ridiculed, jeered at, disgraced or might feel, or have once felt it.
Such treatments could be categorized as coming from ones colleagues in the office, at school, at church or some other social unit within the community. But if we shall look at it from the out of court. If you were not up to something, nobody might want to jeer at you, or talk you off course. Many at atimes, the people who criticise you or make you feel unwanted are actually afraid that you could succeed and become ahead of them. Could you have ever noticed that the same persons who caused you pains, still come around in somewhat way even outrightly to check after you?
On the other hand, where ones social needs are not met, it behoves too, that the person who is not receiving isn't doing a giving, even if the person gives, it isn't giving enough. I believe that love is reciprocal, and that respect is even. But that is not to say that we trade love, care and respect. It just happens that what we sow in others comes back to us and not necessarily from the exact persons we had sowed into. Someone once said, that if you do all the giving that you could to your kids, your wife, and to as many persons as you could and still expect the same persons to return the same favour to you, you had automatically enslaved yourself to the timing of their response of the same gesture. And so, the freer you give, the freer you receive.
Sometimes, we show some persons love and they don't return it back to us, sometimes we show some persons care but they don't return it back to us. Not too worry folk, there is nothing that you own that wasn't given to you in the first place and so there is no end to doing good, ONLY REFUSE TO BE TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF, BECAUSE SOME PERSONS ARE WIRED TO RECEIVE AND GIVE BACK NOTHING. If you don't tell them, show them. Giving don't neccessarily have to be money, or material, you can give your time. Nobody has the right to humilate you either no matter his/her status, rank, color, position, possessions, or creed etc,
Lastly,you couldn't need a friend and not show yourself friendly? You couldn't be rightly criticized and you never fail to improve?
Till I come your way next time, I remain yours truly,
HENRY CHIKE OKONKWO.
Do have a lovely week ahead.
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